27-03-2019 05:00 PM
Thank you so much. Just feel incredibly sad.
07-04-2019 05:35 AM
Hi @Cloud9 ,
Being so far away from him while he was in hospital would have been an awful experience for you both, and the lack of communication from the staff is really disgusting in my opinion. I work as an advocate in that area and see it a lot, and it's not acceptable.
My partner has Schizophrenia and was discharged a couple of weeks ago from his latest stay during which his medication was altered and if things keep going the way they are he'll be back in there soon. Happily this admission was smoother than previous ones - this time I wasn't a government agent trying to enact nasty things ( had to subsititute the word I had there! ) to him and managed to see him every day. I've had many conversations where he begs me to knock off work early to visit only to get there and have abuse hurled at me because he's been "told" I'm cheating on him and bribed the doctors to keep him locked up so I can carry on my affair or other such sagas. Then after I've bawled my eyes out in the car park and driven home, he calls to tell me he's sorry and he loves me.
I have Bipolar 1 and after 20 odd years of suicide attempts and treatment for depression I was diagnosed about 7 years ago though we can retrospectively track sypmtoms and episodes from my late teens. I loved my manic episodes because I go so much stuff done, but the inability to control my actions sometimes was problematic especially the really rash decisions. After working 2 or 3 jobs my whole life and the final breakdown after 4 years managing an organisation I fell into mental health work during my recovery.
I have some rather strong opinions on some things so apologies in advance if I offend anyone especially doctors who are respectful, polite, communicative andconsumer centred in their treatment of people but a few thoughts:
And some suggestions for the future:
I'm obviously making the most of being able to "talk" uninterupted right now; not something I've been able to do much today ;-) Good luck and look after yourself - carers are notorious for neglecting themselves.
18-06-2019 09:02 PM
Your story is almost identical to mine. Married 19yrs was diagnosed a fee months ago and literally same behavior. One min im the worse wife,controlling, wanted to leave me then next min crying apolgising couldnt live without me. I had been dealing with this for a year and all sorts of things crossed my mind. He started drinking heavily and had never touched alcohol before, and did some drugs because he didnt know how to deal with it. Im finding it so hard to trust him, its confusing to know whn its bipolar or if hes back on anything. Hes on medicatiom and although hes been getting better some days when he hides away all day in the room all sorts of what ifs go through my mind. Hardest time of my life
Before this he was a freakn great husband and father. I have days where im adamant in going to leave then i see bit of old him and i cant. I mourn him like he has died at time. So i feel you to the core. I pray both our hubbies come back to us ♡
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