I don't know how to handle this

[tyme]

I might so and post it in Christian Chat  @ENKELI @avant-garde 

[ENKELI]

@tyme sorry! I am posting to several different threads and got confused where I was. Thank you for the gentle diversion xo

[avant-garde]

It wasn't all that happened...

He approached me in the cleaning aisle where asked for my number 

I told him that I only just met him and I don't give out that kind of information, that if we happened upon each other in the future I would consider going for a cup of tea, his suggestion of tea, clearly not a coffee drinker

What set off alarm bells was that he followed me and stopped me near the fridge section where he kept pushing for my phone number and he wanted to get to know me we talked about history and I gave him my email address, I should have given him a fake email, it's not like I don't have them. 

then we said goodbye again and he followed me again to the checkout in which I actually didn't get anything

Then he stopped me outside the supermarket I was glad I was parked upstairs

I'm reading through this now and it actually makes me feel sick

I was a stranger he just approached and met in a supermarket

Ok now I'm spiralling

That's not ok is it? It's not ok right? There was ill intent there 

It wasn't until I realised he followed me that my trauma response came out...

[ENKELI]

@avant-garde if the interaction made you feel uncomfortable then it's obviously not something you should pursue.

For me I would react differently as I don't have a trauma response that would be triggered. I'd either tell him to nick off or jokingly say something to him about following me. For you it's woken up bad feelings. If you don't want to hear from him just block his email. Depending on what email platform you're using you can assign emails to the SPAM folder so you don't see them. I've had to do that with a couple of people and it makes me breathe easier when I check my emails.

I'm sorry that it's upset you and that he crossed your boundaries, the way you've described his actions makes him appear to have no boundaries and that is also something he would need to have to date you.

[avant-garde]

@ENKELI 

I was in a supermarket again today and I thought I saw him and then suddenly I was terrified...