Alone

[mg88]

Living in Perth (isolated) to maintain relationships with my two kids. It’s going poorly. Motivation to leave the house is low. Just feel like there is no where to go, I’ll be alone there I’m alone here is the thought. So I just don’t leave the house. Family court seems impossible. 5 years of and raising my kids just becomes less obtainable by the day

[tyme]

Hey there @mg88 ,

That sounds so hard and isolating. I can see how much you care about your children and you want to be close to them. Do you see them everyday? Sorry, from your post, I wasn't sure if you were with them or not.

By connecting with members on the forums, I hope you feel less alone while navigating your circumstances.

We look forward to hearing from you.

[rav3n]

hey @mg88 welcome again!

i just saw your post on the other thread: https://saneforums.org/t5/Social-space/Alone/m-p/1695862/highlight/true#M461279, i'm guessing it was an accident - would you like me to delete that one?

i'm so sorry to hear how isolated you feel, sounds like you're dealing with a lot right now. have you reached out to others before about you feel, whether that's a friend or professional?

the forums community is here for you, you're always welcome to connect here. a lot of us can relate to feeling isolated too, hopefully you can feel less alone here 💙

[mg88]

Yes it was an accident. I placed it in the wrong forum I thought. Thanks if you could delete.

[mg88]

Thank you for the reply. Yes I’ve reached out to professionals, I just don’t seem to have purpose each day. I’ve been isolated for so long I have issues with maintaining connections with people. 

[mg88]

Thanks for your response, I don’t see the kids each day. Over the five years the battle to maintain a relationships has taking a toll on me and I just don’t know how I can keep going with it. While at the same time there is no escaping the loss of fatherhood and connection with my children. 

[tyme]

Hey @mg88 ,

I hear how stressful things are for you and that the situation is really taking its toll. I'm not sure of your particular circumstances, but it sounds like perhaps the focus needs to be on you and your wellbeing.

It's great that you've been able to reach out here because we recognise it takes a lot of effort to do so.

Do you have a doctor you can speak to about how you are feeling?

[mg88]

Yes, I have a doctor. I just don’t know what it is I should be doing. I plan to go for a walk each day but the thought seems pointless when I comes to doing it. 

[Appleblossom]

@mg88 sending a sense of solidarity.

 I have had to relinquish family relationships and do not believe the family court is as good as it thinks. 

As a daughter, I have had to reconnect with my father after his death. Nothing too crazy, just in my own inner world and understanding of him and his life. The world needs good fathers but doesn’t seem to be realising that at the moment. Hmmm. 

take care of yourself. Shrink the inner critic and find a decent path for yourself.

It took me a while to be able to re-engage socially. 

[tyme]

What about some daily goal-setting here on the forums @mg88 ? Would that help? No matter how big or small the goal e.g having a shower, getting out of bed, having a healthy meal.

Hope you are okay today. Sitting with you.